An Easy Way To Feel Happier Everyday
In the wonderful world of manifesting, there is an old saying 'Nothing Changes Until You Do'. And in order to explain this adage, I often tell the story of a simple but powerful conversation I had with a cabdriver a few years back that had a profound impact on me. I was in London, on my way home from the airport after speaking at a conference. The driver and I began talking. He had a beautiful accent. Based on how he looked and sounded, I assumed he was from somewhere in Africa, but I couldn't tell exactly where. It didn't come up in what we were talking about, so I didn't ask.
Right before we got to where he was dropping me off, there was a pause in our conversation, so I inquired, “By the way, where are you from originally?”
“I'm from Ethiopia,” he said. He then proudly stated, “I've been here in the U.K. for twenty years. I'm an English citizen now; so are both of my boys and my wife.”
I'm not exactly sure what prompted me, but I then asked him, “What’s your perspective on English culture, given that you didn't grow up here?” At first he didn't say anything, and I thought maybe I had offended him. We were just arriving at the bus terminal. He pulled up to the curb, put the cab in park, turned around, and looked me right in the eye. “Can I be honest with you?” he asked. “Sure,” I said. “Well,” he said, “I think most people in this culture act like spoiled brats.” “Why do you say that?” I asked. “Look, I'm from Ethiopia,” he said. “Every day here is a good day for me, compared to how my people live, the people here don't have half as much to complain about.” I was taken aback by the simplicity, wisdom, and power of his statement. And, I was grateful for the reminder.
Gratitude is a Practice, Not A Concept
I've been speaking and writing about gratitude for many years, and I'm still amazed at how challenging it can be to focus on what I'm grateful for at times. We live in a culture that has an obsession with negativity, and it’s easy for us to get caught up in how “bad” things are scenario, as well as in our own personal and insatiable desire for more, thinking that what we have and how things are in our own lives is never quite good enough. However, regardless of the specific circumstances of our lives, even and especially when they’re difficult, if we stop, pay attention, and look for it, there are always so many things we can be grateful for—if we choose to be. Gratitude is a practice, not a concept.
And, like any other practice, the more genuine and consistent we are with it, the more valuable and beneficial it is.
Most of us, especially those of us on a path of personal growth and discovery, know that gratitude is important. We've heard about it, read about it, and been taught about it for years. In the mid 1990s a wonderful book called "Simple Abundance" by Sarah Ban Breathnach came out. Sarah was a featured guest on The Oprah Winfrey Show, and Oprah talked about how Sarah’s suggestion to keep a daily gratitude journal—to write down five things each day that you’re grateful for—had a profound impact on her life. Oprah became a passionate advocate for the power of gratitude and since that time has continued to encourage millions of people around the world to keep their own gratitude journals.
Create A Gratitude Journal
Like so many other people, I took Oprah’s advice and started my own journal many years ago. I found it to be fun, inspiring, and empowering to look for, find, and write down things I was grateful for. When I started speaking, coaching, and writing, much of my work focused on gratitude and appreciation. The technique of the gratitude journal was something I often suggested to people. However, over time it became one of the many things that I “know” and even “teach,” but had stopped practising consistently in my own life.
A few years back, as a New Year’s resolution, I recommitted myself to the practice of my gratitude journal. I bought a new, beautiful journal and decided I was going to start using it. It took me a little while to get back into the practice of writing in it consistently, but once I was in the swing of it, it was pretty easy. Later that year I had a few months where things were going really well in many important areas of my life. As I sat down to write in my gratitude journal one morning, I decided to look back at some of the things I’d written over the past few months.
As I turned the pages, I realized that I hadn’t missed a day of writing in over three months. I was amazed. It was less about the consistency of my writing, and more about the consistency of my excitement to do this exercise and the benefits I got from it. Things were going so well in my life, and the positive turns seemed to be directly connected to my use of the gratitude journal. I said to a friend of mine, “I'm not sure if things are going so well because I'm writing in my gratitude journal every day, or I'm excited to write in my gratitude journal every day because things are going so well. I bet it’s a combination of both. At some level, I don’t really care—I'm just grateful for how things are going and for my journalling practice.”
The way gratitude works is that the more we focus on feeling grateful, the more we have to feel grateful for. And while many of us have experienced this personally, recent scientific studies have concluded that gratitude can have significantly positive effects on our health, our moods, our productivity, and our relationships.
In one specific study, conducted by Robert A. Emmons, Ph.D., at the University of California at Davis and Mike McCullough at the University of Miami, participants were given one of three tasks. Each week, they kept a short journal. One group was asked to write down five things they were grateful for that had occurred in the past week, another was asked to record five hassles from the previous week that displeased them, and the neutral group was asked to list five events or circumstances that affected them, but they weren't told whether to focus on something positive or negative specifically. Ten weeks later, the people in the gratitude group felt better about their lives as a whole, plus they reported fewer health complaints, and exercised more.
Like many other things in life that we know are good for us (exercise, eating healthy, sleeping enough, drinking lots of water, telling the truth, and so on), it’s not the knowledge that will benefit us; it’s the practice. The amazing thing about gratitude is that there’s no “right” way to practice being grateful.
Whether you choose to keep a journal, thank the people around you, use positive affirmations, ask other people what they’re grateful for (one of my favourites), focus on gratitude in your quiet time of prayer or meditation, or simply remind yourself to slow down and breathe—taking time to focus on what we’re grateful for is one of the easiest and most effective ways to empower ourselves, calm ourselves down, and remember what matters most in life. As one of my mentors said to me years ago, “Gratitude and victim-hood can’t coexist.”
Gratitude is the most powerful of all human emotions. It’s the genesis of love, joy, and happiness. Time for you to unfold the secret of everything you want through gratitude. Time for you to know: How to give gratitude in advance and attract everything you want?
Gratitude is the origin of all positive emotions. While most people think the other way round. The feeling of gratitude in your heart, mind and soul generate these magical feelings. The admiration of beauty, kindness and intellect start from a deep feeling of gratitude for their existence. The divine attraction to love, joy and happiness generate a deep feeling of gratitude for this human bliss.
This is why the gratitude is the most powerful force in the Universe. Gratitude is the true elixir of life and the greatest magic of nature.
Every human achievement or superhuman feat reached so far started with a feeling of gratitude. It’s gratitude that can give you the magical power to do, have and be anything you want. But the magic of gratitude has a secret. A secret that takes it to the realm of magic. This secret that changes the way you can move the forces in the Universe for you.
Gratitude becomes magic when it is expressed prior to receiving the blessing.
Yes, most people believe in giving the gratitude after receiving or manifesting something. That’s great for being grateful for something you get or manifest or blessed with.
But the moment you start using it as the force of creation in the Universe by expressing gratitude for things before you manifest them or events before they occurred in reality, that’s when you take the power of gratitude to a phenomenal level. That’s when you make gratitude your magic lamp and that’s when miracles happen.
Give gratitude in advance and see the Universe make it happen for you.
So, How to give gratitude in advance?
Even before you meet new people, even before they love you, even before they like your work and even before they appreciate your charm and intellect, give your gratitude to them for loving you, for supporting your work, for helping you in your journey. This is how you create a magical relationship even before it comes into existence.
If you are having a bad relationship, give gratitude for the healing of hearts even before it seems like healing. Give your gratitude so much that everyone finds peace even before they expect it. And that’s when you create the magic. Even before you thrive in your new profession or business give gratitude to people for being with you and helping you.
Looking for a dream job? Great! Even before you find your job give gratitude that someone, somewhere is selecting your profile for the job. Before you go to the interview give gratitude that the interview panel is looking for a person just like you, even before they find you.
That’s when you create the magical power of gratitude for you.
If you want to have a great body, attractive looks or magical healing, give gratitude to every single cell and tissue in your body, give gratitude to your heart, mind and soul for making you the person you want to become. Don’t wait for a day when you will feel like super human and then become happy.
Be happy and be grateful for who you are and be grateful for who you want to become and see your cells, tissue and DNA rearrange themselves with gratitude to create that magical attraction, that phenomenal look and that internal beauty in you. You can only create this with your magical power of gratitude.
Most importantly, if you are living in a negative environment surrounded by negative people, then give gratitude in advance. Give gratitude for a positive environment, give gratitude for magical people around you, give gratitude for a surrounding with happy and loving people in your existence.
And when you do this, negative people will be less around you and good people will be more, either same people change their perception for you or new people will appear who matches your frequency. That’s when your gratitude either heals people who were negative or attract new positive people to you. So no more expectation that when people, things and event be great in your favour only then you will give gratitude to them.
If you want to create magic in life, go a step ahead give gratitude in advance, give gratitude for happy & positive people for coming your way, give gratitude for everything taking place in your favour and give gratitude that unseen forces of nature are working on your dreams.
That’s when you set your journey to success, happiness, and abundance. That’s when you attract magic into your life. Give infinite gratitude in advance and bring a whole new magical power of manifestation into your life.
So are you ready to bring abundance into your life with advance gratitude?